just need to get this said

The response from Foley’s abuser just sickens me. Of course an abuser doesn’t think that he’s done anything wrong. Duh. It sickens me because it shows all of us just what kind of sick rationalizing abusers will go to in order to justify their behavior. And I wish people would point that out every time they quote this asshole. This could possibly be the type of rationalizing that went through Foley’s mind, folks. Wake the fuck up.

In all of this, if you think I’m unsympathetic to Foley, you’d be right. Partly. I am sympathetic that he’s a victim too. I’m not surprised that it’s taken this long for him to finally admit it. I met many, many men and women in childhood sexual abuse support groups who were finally coming to terms with their abuse in their fifties, sixties and even seventies (I was 21 when I finally told someone). So for those asshats who say “What fifteen year old would hold onto these e-mails for three years?” We should be happy that it only took that kid three years instead of potentially never.

Where I am not sympathetic is that I utterly do not believe that past abuse excuses his actions. We do not know yet if he committed any crime that appears in any law book. What I know is that after reading those IM’s, he’s definitely a creepy predator of minors and what he did is wrong. I don’t feel bad for him at all and neither should anyone else. He continued the cycle of abuse and should take full responsibility for his actions. There are no excuses.

And it pisses me off that the MSM is trying to build sympathy for Foley. No way. It’s not up to us to forgive Foley, it’s his victims and their choice if they want to or not.

Posted by jennj at October 22, 2006 11:34 AM